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“Just Like My Father” Was Not Meant to Be a Compliment, But It Is to Me
Whenever I get into an argument with my wife, she will often say, “You are just like your father!” For most people, that would sound like an insult. Many kids grow up believing they will not be like their parents, especially when they become parents themselves. They tell themselves they will do things differently. Yet…
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Afraid to Lose vs Love to Win
My wife and I have been having the same debate since our son was three years old. She sees his talent, the way he moves, the way he swings a golf club, and believes he has what it takes to become a professional golfer. I see the talent too. But after playing mini tours, coaching…
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Love and Passion: The Fire That Makes Hard Days Feel Light
Jou, Leia, and I often have this discussion. They see me wake up before the sun and come home after dark. Thirteen-hour days are normal for me. They ask me if I am tired. I tell them the truth. Was I tired? Yes.Was it hard? No.Did I have a good time? Yes. The difference is…
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The Principles I Live By and Where I Found Them
There are a few things I have learned along the way. They did not come from classrooms or degrees. Most of them came from people I met, books I read, or quiet moments where something simple opened my eyes. These principles have stayed with me, guiding how I see relationships, family, and life itself. Principle…
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The Hardest Lesson for a Manager: What You Hear Isn’t Always What Was Said
Not long ago, I was told by upper management that two of my staff were not happy. The message was that they felt I should help out more on the restaurant side, bussing tables and serving customers. That hit me hard. Because I do roll up my sleeves. In April and May, I cooked in…
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中庸 (Balance) in Golf and Life
The idea of 中庸 — balance — shows up everywhere once you start looking for it. In golf, in parenting, in business, even in the way we carry ourselves day to day. Golf: Between Reckless and Fearful On the course, extremes rarely work. Swinging with full aggression often leads to disaster. Playing too cautiously can…
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中庸 (Balance) in Nutrition and Life Stages
The older I get, the more I see how needs change. What worked for me at one stage of life doesn’t always work now. And the same is true for food. That’s where the idea of 中庸 — balance — comes in. Kids: Building Blocks When I look at my kids, their bodies are in…
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Performance Journaling: Shortening the Distance Between Mistake and Solution
Journaling sounds simple. Almost too simple. But it’s one of the most powerful tools I’ve found for improvement — in golf, in food, and in business. Here’s why: problems repeat. And awareness is the shortcut to fixing them. And when I say “journal,” I don’t mean a 300-word essay where you pour out your soul…
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What I Learned From Keeping a Golf Journal
When I first started taking golf seriously, I was told to keep a journal. At the time, it felt unnecessary. Why write down bad shots when I just wanted to fix them? Back when I was struggling on the mini-tour, I used to practice at a local course in Tempe, AZ. There was an older…
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What I Learned From Keeping a Food Journal
Food is simple — until your body tells you otherwise. When I first got married, I wanted to share more with my wife. She’s a vegetarian, and whenever we ate together or sat down with her family, I joined her. No meat on my plate. At first, I thought I was being healthier. More vegetables,…
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The Gift That Matters: Planting A Seed For Our Future Together
In my line of work, I rarely shop for clothes or accessories because vendors sponsor most of what I wear. Outfits, golf gear, even small items — they’re often covered through sponsorships. So when my wife asks what I want, I usually tell her honestly, “I don’t need anything.” But she still enjoys buying me…
