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I Love You. Thank You. I’m Sorry. Please Forgive Me.
This is Part 7 and the final article in my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. About 15 years ago, I learned about Ho’oponopono from my in-law. Four simple phrases stayed with me: I love you. Thank you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. I’ve thought about those words many times over the years.…
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Knowing When Your Chapter Is Finished
This is Part 6 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. Some chapters end because you decide they are finished. Others end because somebody else decides for you. I’ve experienced both. And looking back, I think there is something useful in that. We spend a lot of time talking about starting well.…
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Sometimes the Results Come After You Leave
This is Part 5 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. One of the strange things about leaving a job is that you don’t always get to see whether the things you started actually worked. You make a decision. You change a system. You put a plan in place. Then sometimes you…
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Don’t Make a Decision You’ll Regret
This is Part 4 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. There is something I’ve told my kids for years: Don’t make a decision you’re going to regret. That doesn’t mean every decision will work out. Sometimes you make what you believe is the right decision and still get a bad result.…
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Leave It Better Than You Found It
This is Part 3 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. Golf has a kind of etiquette that gets passed down from one generation of golfers to the next. You replace your divots. You rake the bunker after you hit out of it. You repair your ball mark on the green. And…
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The Flag I Needed to Make Before I Left
This is Part 2 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. Before I left Virtues Golf Club, there was one project I really wanted to finish. It wasn’t about revenue. It wasn’t about course conditions. It wasn’t even really about me. I wanted the people who came after us to know something…
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Going Back to Say Thank You
This is Part 1 of my series, How to Leave Something the Right Way. I was driving from Michigan to Florida to start the next chapter of my life. I could have taken a few different routes south. But I decided to go through Ohio and spend the night with a good friend who lives…
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Who Is the Golf Lesson Really Supposed to Serve?
I have been around golf instruction for a long time. I have taught golf. I have worked with good instructors. I have friends who still make their living teaching the game. So this is not an attack on golf instructors. I also understand something very simple. Golf instructors need to make money. But there is…
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Why Equal Skills Don’t Add Up Equally
When I was trying to compete as a golf professional, something bothered me for a long time. If I broke golf into parts, I could stand next to some very good players and not feel outmatched. Driving distance.Accuracy.Long irons.Mid irons.Short irons.Wedges.Putting. Piece by piece, I belonged. But when everything came together in competition, there was…
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Don’t Ask a Fish to Fly
Both of my kids came home with the same test score one day.An 80. Same number.Very different reactions. Leia was happy.That subject is hard for her, and to her, 80 meant progress. Jou was disappointed.He expected more from himself, and the same 80 felt like a miss. Nothing about the score was wrong.What stood out…
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What You Choose to Act On Is What Matters – 2
I noticed something simple the other day, and it stayed with me longer than I expected. Both of my kids came home with the same test score.An 80. Same number.Very different reactions. Leia was happy.The subject was hard for her, and to her, 80 meant progress. Jou was frustrated.He expected more, and the same 80…
