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Both of my kids had midterms today. Jou came home and told me he got an 80 on his physics exam.Leia came home and told me she got an 80 on her U.S. history exam. Same score.Two very different reactions. Leia was happy. U.S. history is hard for her.She felt she did well to get…

Epilogue: What I Noticed Looking Back I didn’t set out to write a series. I wasn’t trying to explain myself.Or leave a lesson behind. I was just writing down moments that stayed with me. A phone call with Lu.A late shift at a driving range.A family conversation that didn’t resolve.A choice that didn’t come with…

Awareness Before Fixes Most of the time, we know something is wrong. There’s an illness.There’s a swing fault.There’s a mistake that keeps showing up. We see the result clearly. What we don’t see is the cause. Not because it’s hidden.But because seeing it requires honesty. And honesty is uncomfortable. In golf, this shows up fast.…

Chosen Inheritance My father was a good man. He didn’t talk much about what he carried.He just carried it. My grandfather passed away early.My father was the oldest son. When he finished high school, his test scores were good enough to get into 高雄醫學院.At the time, becoming a doctor meant years of school, internship, and…

How I Stay in Love – Emotional Boundaries People often assume that understanding comes from sharing the same language. I speak Mandarin fluently.I look Chinese.On the surface, it should be easy. But I moved to the U.S. when I was 13.My parents weren’t with me the whole time.My sister was around, but she was in…

Fair Is Not the Same as Right Growing up, my parents talked a lot about being fair. I have an older brother and an older sister.They’re five and six years older than me. I could tell my parents liked my brother more.That never bothered me. What mattered to them was something else. They wanted to…

Responsibility Without Reciprocity There are people you lovethat you don’t have good relationships with. It took me a long time to accept that. Jack, my stepdad, helped me see it first. We were in Florida once, visiting him with my brother.He had just hung up the phone with his sister. He said something that sounded…