MyJLStory

Tag: Journaling

  • Why Equal Skills Don’t Add Up Equally

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    When I was trying to compete as a golf professional, something bothered me for a long time. If I broke golf into parts, I could stand next to some very good players and not feel outmatched. Driving distance.Accuracy.Long irons.Mid irons.Short irons.Wedges.Putting. Piece by piece, I belonged. But when everything came together in competition, there was…

  • Don’t Ask a Fish to Fly

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    Both of my kids came home with the same test score one day.An 80. Same number.Very different reactions. Leia was happy.That subject is hard for her, and to her, 80 meant progress. Jou was disappointed.He expected more from himself, and the same 80 felt like a miss. Nothing about the score was wrong.What stood out…

  • What You Choose to Act On Is What Matters – 2

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    I noticed something simple the other day, and it stayed with me longer than I expected. Both of my kids came home with the same test score.An 80. Same number.Very different reactions. Leia was happy.The subject was hard for her, and to her, 80 meant progress. Jou was frustrated.He expected more, and the same 80…

  • What You Choose to Act On Is What Matters – 1

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    Both of my kids had midterms today. Jou came home and told me he got an 80 on his physics exam.Leia came home and told me she got an 80 on her U.S. history exam. Same score.Two very different reactions. Leia was happy. U.S. history is hard for her.She felt she did well to get…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – Epilogue

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    Epilogue: What I Noticed Looking Back I didn’t set out to write a series. I wasn’t trying to explain myself.Or leave a lesson behind. I was just writing down moments that stayed with me. A phone call with Lu.A late shift at a driving range.A family conversation that didn’t resolve.A choice that didn’t come with…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – 7

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    Awareness Before Fixes Most of the time, we know something is wrong. There’s an illness.There’s a swing fault.There’s a mistake that keeps showing up. We see the result clearly. What we don’t see is the cause. Not because it’s hidden.But because seeing it requires honesty. And honesty is uncomfortable. In golf, this shows up fast.…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – 6

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    Chosen Inheritance My father was a good man. He didn’t talk much about what he carried.He just carried it. My grandfather passed away early.My father was the oldest son. When he finished high school, his test scores were good enough to get into 高雄醫學院.At the time, becoming a doctor meant years of school, internship, and…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – 5

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    How I Stay in Love – Emotional Boundaries People often assume that understanding comes from sharing the same language. I speak Mandarin fluently.I look Chinese.On the surface, it should be easy. But I moved to the U.S. when I was 13.My parents weren’t with me the whole time.My sister was around, but she was in…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – 4

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    Fair Is Not the Same as Right Growing up, my parents talked a lot about being fair. I have an older brother and an older sister.They’re five and six years older than me. I could tell my parents liked my brother more.That never bothered me. What mattered to them was something else. They wanted to…

  • Lessons Collected Off the Course – 3

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    Responsibility Without Reciprocity There are people you lovethat you don’t have good relationships with. It took me a long time to accept that. Jack, my stepdad, helped me see it first. We were in Florida once, visiting him with my brother.He had just hung up the phone with his sister. He said something that sounded…